Latest Posts

Her Forever Prayer

Jake is very attractive. Harmony had a very high level of sexual attraction with him that she could not understand. They went out. He seemed open and honest. The fourth date he invited her home and Harmony met his mother, cousin, grandmother and sister; it was the day after Thanksgiving. He seemed proud to share with them that Harmony was an honor student at a prestigious Christian university and bragged to them about her job. Harmony describes that moment as, “More than sweet. His family is lovely. I really enjoyed the women’s presence and conversation. Middle Eastern food is good and their home was so clean. I loved it. He also made […]

Continue reading »

Sweet Memory: A Romantic Tender Rejection

Last summer I told a guy how I felt about him. I was trying to pull a Ruth. Haha. He confessed he has felt the same towards me for years. He said that he really admired me and thought highly of me. He went on to list all the qualities he loved about me. He also added that he had a lot of issues to work through; he alluded to sexual issues. He had an expression of sadness and self-disappointment on his face as he confessed, “I do not want to put you through my struggles and my pain. It would not be fair to you.” He strongly suggested that I […]

Continue reading »

God in the Mist of the Dating World: Mary’s Conviction

          Mary’s weekend was painful. Her friend got married to an unbeliever and another friend had a baby-shower, who is also a non-believer, this truly triggered her. Marys’ pain came from the thought that God would bless others before her with what He promised her years ago. She thought her faithfulness to God was being overlooked by Him. Her pain was vast too great she sinned.            That weekend Stev had been calling her. She finally agreed to see him for a date. Mary was honest with him. She told him that she didn’t want anything serious with him because he’s not […]

Continue reading »

Faith Over Fear in a World of Sexual Sin

One of my favorite mentors Spencer Robbins said to me, “I’ve found that 98% of men I’ve met, deal or have dealt with sexual struggles- specifically porn and masturbating. The rare breeds are the ones that run after breaking free from shame and are willing to do whatever it takes to get free from those behaviors and connect with love.” Haven been sexually abused as a child I always run away from potential relationships when I notice or when the guy tells me of his sexual struggles. This is the biggest trigger for me. I am not willing to stay and even discuss their sexual issues because I feel that’s […]

Continue reading »

Relationship Status: Single, Unmarried, No Children

This week a beloved friend of mine came into my office seeking comfort about her life status. She began to say, “I’m not married and I want to have a baby. I have baby fever. I see babies everywhere. My Facebook news feed is full of baby posts. I don’t like my body all the way, and I don’t have the things I want to have.” I listened carefully as I sat behind my desk watching her down caste appearance, thinking to myself, “What? You have it all together. You only need one thing. Ok two. Your licence to practice and Jesus.” She continue to speak, but I interrupted her […]

Continue reading »

Deconstructing a Child’s Identity

Her little eyes were fixed on the perfected marching ants. She followed them until she lost sight of them. She giggled to herself as she thought out a mischief. The little girl skipped all the way home singing songs out loud. She’d say things like, “Mommy look, the moon is following me,” or asked questions such as, “Is the sun a ball of fire or is it long spaghetti strings of light going in different directions?” She though herself a princess, literally. She wore her mothers heels and ruled her world. In her mind. She intrinsically knew God loved her and she felt powerful. This five year old was fierce […]

Continue reading »

I Know You Immensely

My son I know that you are about to become a full man and you have never known the love of a father. You have never known true and unconditional affection from a godly man. I know that this has affected your identity and your view of God in ways you cannot yet articulate. This is what stings me. This is the one thing that I cannot fix for you. I need you to understand how immensely I know you and how profoundly I see your heart. Allow me to tell you what I see in your heart: I don’t know if my mother loves me enough. Why did she have […]

Continue reading »

Absolution of My Heart

I stare at the pond outside of my window. The water moves with ease, it seems to be enchanted by mellow winds. My eyes capture the dancing movements of the tall pines surrounding the pond. I think to myself, “I wish I was the movement the wind produces in nature.” I sit on the comfort of my white cotton bed sheets as I ponder, “Where is this coming from? What is the need of my heart?” And then this thought comes in, “I want to have a light heart.” I smile because this thought gives me so much pleasure. I enter in dialog with God. He whispers, “The old is […]

Continue reading »

The Romanian-Persian Prince

I didn’t notice I absorbed all of his pain. His heart became mine and I grieved. I grieved over his suffering, but he did not take notice. He did not care. How could he? He has been numb for far too long. He was incapable of noticing how I grieved over his broken heart; his paralyzed heart did not allow him too. He admitted once that he was broken, but he could not pinpoint the origin of his suffering. I could. Not only did I know its origin, but I, I merged with it. I know the burning fire that comes from being rapped. I took it upon my shoulders […]

Continue reading »

My Note to a Brother in Christ

God has been teaching this to me the last few months: to feel the pain and not dismiss it. I tried so hard to run away from pain that I drugged myself with everything I could before I knew Christ. When I met Christ I drugged myself with Him. I was using God instead of allowing Him to heal me. In class we are reading a book and it talks about feeling pain. Now, I see the beauty in pain and suffering. It’s how we grow into being more like Christ. It’s how we learn to love others. Do you remember when we went to eat at Three Arts Club […]

Continue reading »
1 2 3 4 5 11